Its always good to be mindful of links - the key indicator here is the link is not going to trademe due to what appears after the first dot. "trademe.n3w..."  

No i don't want to use PING. I'm considering whether to open another bank account with just first and last name if that's possible. But will see if i have anyone else with this issue

I have put in the dispute report. I went back to them again to ask if they have tried my first name and last name and what did that come up with. They actually responded but said they didn't and also said they didn't want to pursue the trade anymore. This is all fine but just don't know why people can't see both sides and move on amicably. I mean really what's harm done. I could get all grumpy about the person not paying but understand their worry and happy to just move on. They have never considered my position. Trademes response will be interesting. I've given all but my middle name so ...

Thanks again for your advice flossy63. I will definitely do that and hopefully trademe will delete it. I know they dont often do, but this is clearly against their policy so hopefully they will. I was hoping we could just agree to move on  

Just an update, I didnt hear bank from the buyer - even after giving my first name so applied for my fees back. Just today they have now placed negative feedback on me for failing to provide full details and stating I must have something to hide.

Hi S, yes but only on bidbud eh? Blacklisted buyers (on trademe) arent blacklisted for you to buy from. If if people who dont use bidbud, you can still effectively buy from a seller you've blacklisted on trademe. Yeh Ive been with trademe for over 20 years and its been interesting to see how much its grown and changed

I do wonder why this wasn't a feature trademe built into their system. If they saw the need to blacklist buyers then why not seller. For those of us that don't use bidbud there should be this option. And as Andrew as said he won't develop bidbud further, at some stage it won't work

Nathan - another way to go is ask the seller if they want to add a buy now. They may not want to, but if they do they amount might be a lot less than you were happy to pay. Of course if its too much, then you'll need to bid to ensure someone else doesnt hit the buy now. Also, you run a risk that someone else might get to the buy now before you do

Thats a great idea flossy63, thanks for suggestion. I will ask the buyer to try that.

K - no I havent checked it but I have made some payments with only first and last name and it stated partial match. But thanks for your suggestion, I will definitely test it and see what it states.   Flossy63 - thanks, Im glad someone has the same cautionary approach as I do. And likewise when I explain with the partial match is ok and safe to continue, that has always work - except for this one time.   Its now been 4 days since the buyer has contacted me, so I have contacted trademe for my fees to be refunded and will just relist and move on if this doesnt prompt a payment. Fingers crossed...