Wow, very clever Callum.. that worked..  I thought once someone bid, there would be no way to change any options..  But there was..  problem sorted.. You're a genius.. Now why couldn't trademe have told me that? Thanks for your help mate.. Much appreciated.. 

We will have to agree to disagree on that one Callum. I think you are wrong on all points.  Usually i choose only verified bidders and never have any problems.  This is the first time i have made a mistake of choosing to allow unverified bidders and the quality of bidders is shocking.  One bidder has 8 feedbacks with 4 of them bad. Another bidder only has one feedback and it was bad.  I could go on.  Problem is I want this thing gone. i dont want to have to have to go through the process of relisting it and waiting another two weeks to try to sell it.    And yes, im blocking them as fast as...

thanks, i managed to work it out.. now waiting for trademe to allow me to relist..  hoping im not doing a 5 day wait thing..

Thanks guys..  Seller didnt seem to keen to pay courier back to them.. So trademe came to the party and paid it.. Kudos to trademe.. Great job..  Much appreciated.  A bit frustrating though as it would have been nice if the seller had come to the party.  It was their mistake. Should have been their problem to sort. 

thank you very much for the advise..     Is that a general trademe rule?  are you able to point me to it? a link?  would be good to be able to send the link to the seller.. Appreciate the help